I can't imagine a life where you only know one thing, and have mastered it the point where you're considered the best in the world at it. That was Alex Rodriquez's life for many years, and the stress of having to keep that up, of not knowing what else you could possibly do, must have been incredible. One passage that struck out to me in this was his relating the "best person in a field" to Babe Ruth. There isn't always a singular best person in a field, things don't always work like they do in sports where it's more clear cut who is the better player (seriously, look into sabermetrics in baseball, it's probably the most advanced system of any sport) and being unable to think about that in a different way. Now this isn't something that is only related to A-Rod. Probably the most recent case is Johnny Manziel of the Cleveland Browns, or the cheating scandal at UNC, or countless other cases. It seems that many of these extraordinarily talented athletes have no problem getting what they want, and maybe more importantly, end up in situations where they are surround by yes men that enable them to continue with poor decisions and habits. This is something I can relate to. Losing a father at a young age is a traumatic experience, and it really does influence and drastically alter how you end up looking at the world and how you can learn more about what it means to be a person of integrity, or whatever else it is you're looking for. I wonder how things would be different if he didn't have that upbringing. Would he still have ended up with the drive and ability to become so great at baseball? I hesitate to say yes. I'm fascinated by his desire to educate himself and get a college education, and to try and be a more normal person. Throughout the entire article you still have to question if he's being genuine with anything he's saying, but I would like to think that he is for some of these things. Mainly the education and family related parts. Anything. Maybe it's not simply about cheating. Maybe it's more complicated. Maybe's it's also not that complicated. If no one is more alive than the athlete in his prime, then no one understands the senescence that awaits us all better than the athlete suddenly not in his prime. Maybe every disgraced athlete is Dorian Gray, selling his soul to stay young, to retain his beauty and power. Hiding his true portrait from the world, he wakes one day in horror at the bargain he's struck. Damn. Have a badge for that paragraph alone. Many sports fans like to forget the person behind the athlete. I was in the middle of reading this and was going to post it, but you beat me to it.So he can do no wrong. Early in his suspension it occurs to him with the force of revelation: My whole life, I've never been punished, never been told no -- until the 162.
Each conversation is an interrogation. It's his process, it's how he interacts with the world. It's how he learns.
But when that voice stops speaking? The silence is like nothing you've ever heard, or not heard, and the loneliness is not unlike death, because it is a foretaste of death. He'd do anything to get it back.
I agree. I also think about young kids - high schoolers, etc - who are pushed to go pro directly from high school today. This is especially common in the NBA, but obviously happens in all sports, and it is terrifying. These kids know one world and one world only and are suddenly placed into a completely different world, sometimes with a signing bonuses and contracts that are worth more than their entire neighborhood. IMO, nothing good can come from this. At the very best, they have a lasting career in the NBA and learn valuable life skills that they can utilize outside the sport. The play, they coach or manage or assist or become a commentator something, they are engrained in the sport for life til death. The likelihood of this happening is slim to none. Much more likely is a few weeks / months where they push themselves too hard, get injured, and lose their entire career. Now what are they left with? A shoddy high school education, inability to play ball anywhere else since they've already played professionally, and a large sum of money that may or may not have already been spent. I would say that A-Rod has an advantage over these kids, but I'm not sure by how much. Is it easier to be 20 years old and have your life ripped from under you, or fly high for 20 years professionally and then have it ripped from under you? Being 20 years old and have to start college (if you have the opportunity and means) after a false-start of pro-sports would be a massive obstacle. Starting college at 40 with all the knowledge you have acquired seems much more reasonable, once you get past the embarrassment and self-consciousness. However, sometimes it seems like A-rod is a 40 year old stuck in a 20 year old's mind. Did he ever take the time to learn anything while playing baseball? Or did he waltz through, never experiencing any hardships or dealing with life? Can he take his experiences and reflect on them now to learn? Does he have an advantage in that sense? I don't know. Watching my brother's experience, it's mind boggling how much stuff goes on behind the scenes, how much help they get - directly or indirectly, and how little people know about this world. I'm not talking about big cheating scandals or fake grades either - as far as I know he experienced neither of these. But, simply having a network of teammates, classmates, coaches, administrators that are there to help you has a drastic effect on how making it through schools, systems, classes, etc goes. Some of it is for very good reason. Anyone who has been to college knows its impossible to get a good schedule and either classes overlap, classes aren't offered during certain semesters, etc. I know I spent hours and hours alone in my room with a multitude of tabs open, making notes about classes and times, trying to figure out which group of 5 I could take that semester. It was a motherfucking puzzle. And then you had to do it all over again when registration for a class was already full. When you add in 6 hours of scheduled baseball training each day, 3 hours of mandatory "study hall" twice a week, and travel days during regular season, it would be impossible for any of these kids to get classes completed. However, since they have this network of people, they find ways to do it...together. Someone finds a way to make it work and shares it with the rest of the team. One example is the entire baseball team completed their mandatory language requirements by taking Italian, which happened to be a weird class that didn't fit in the normal blocks of class time. This allowed them to do lifting / pitching / running in at 6am, have Italian right after that, and then take an afternoon class on the normal time schedule, and make it to afternoon field practice from 4pm-7pm. While not cheating or skating by or any massive advantage, the little things add up. When you do this over and over again - from laundry to classes to housing etc. etc. etc. - it becomes standard to hand off any frustrating, aggravating task that you don't want to deal with. And that makes it hard to enter the "real world" once those advantages are taken away from you. Without a bit of realism, engrained morals, and a well-adjusted upbringing, it would be very easy to fall into taking a passive and spoiled approach to life or blatantly requesting and receiving anything and everything. As we've seen with the cheating scandals, the amount of help you get as a athlete or student-athlete vary drastically. I agree with this as well. I didn't lose my father, or anyone close to me, at a young age. But everyone I know who has is drastically affected by it, and not always in the ways you would imagine. I call them little glitches or bugs sometimes because the tiniest little ideas that really don't have a huge reach on your overall life, can get "stuck" and suddenly they do have a huge reach for these people. This is one of my favorite passages - but there are far too many to quote them all. Such great writing.I can't imagine a life where you only know one thing, and have mastered it the point where you're considered the best in the world at it.
Losing a father at a young age is a traumatic experience, and it really does influence and drastically alter how you end up looking at the world and how you can learn more about what it means to be a person of integrity, or whatever else it is you're looking for
Quoting Rodriguez is like dropping a Mento into a Diet Coke. It makes a big whoosh, everyone gets excited, for about three seconds, and then it's just a mess, and you wonder what's been accomplished, besides some stickiness, and maybe a permanent stain.