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insomniasexx  ·  3410 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How did you find out what you wanted to do in life?  ·  

First step. Read these. The advice in here is expansive and awesome:

edit: here's a post list w/ a few more.

Step 2: Never take a single word of advice. Take it all in. Let it simmer and stew and marinate in that brain / heart of yours and make decisions based on what you think and feel. Your decisions will be influenced by the mountains of advice but the decisions will be yours and yours alone.

Step 3: Don't make any big decisions you don't have to. Make little ones and enjoy the journey. I planned on working in television (like I did in high school) instead of going to college. I figured I would figure it out. I hated school and spent more time trying to figure out how to not go to school and keep my valedictorian status than actually going to school. Then I got into NYU Film unexpectedly. Then I dropped out of NYU film two years in because I lost my passion. Then I worked nights editing shitty movies and TV shows for next to nothing (maybe like $50/night). Then I took off to Australia for three months with some Aussies I had met at a bar while doing cocaine one night (no joke). Then I got back home, moved in with my parents, and accepted a job at $13.25/hr editing product videos. Then I taught myself web development. Then I quit my job and started my own business creating websites for people. And here I am. I just turned 25. If you had asked me where I would be at 25 when I was 16, I would have said, "Doing cocaine and producing indie films and living a rockstar lifestyle." I don't produce films (although I occasionally get a corporate video bullshit gig) and I don't do cocaine anymore. I also make websites. WTF? How did that happen?

Life changes and it changes fast. The best thing you can do is roll with the punches and make sure whatever you are doing, you are passionate about. You are never too old or too young to do something big or change the direction you are headed. There is a big difference in being non-committal and giving up, and changing directions though.

I was 100% passionate about film until I wasn't. I tried really hard to find that passion again and spent a lot of time thinking there was something terribly wrong with me and that I had some lack-of-motivation disease (there's a motivation/passion enzyme in your thyroid right?) It turns out I was just over it. I sobbed to my parents for literally an hour straight, sitting on a grimmy NYC curb, before the words, "I want to drop out of college" left my lips. Then I sobbed and tried to catch my breath for another 4 hours or so.

If you don't have passion for something right now, do what you like best and explore the surrounding areas. Eventually you will find something. You are young as shit. I have friends pushing 30 who are still running away to foreign lands and snorting coke and haven't even tried to figure out what they want to do with their life / what their passion is.

Learn as much as you can now though. Real life is not conducive to picking up new skills, FYI. Go learn to solder or some shit. I don't know. I wish I had the time to learn that right now.





thenewgreen  ·  3410 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I never, ever forget how awesome you are insom... but once in a while you more than remind me anyways. Great reply, I just shared this post so that others might see your reply. I think it's a good one to reference any time a question like this comes up, which is often. Not judging the question, it's part of the human experience, but your answer and the links provided are pretty damn comprehensive.

Nice.

insomniasexx  ·  3409 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thanks other Steve!

I think I should make a list of all these posts. I am sure there are more out there too that I simply didn't find.

edit: I made it

elizabeth  ·  3409 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I wish to have lived such an interesting life by the time i'm 25 :) Your story's amazing

steve  ·  3409 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    You are never too old or too young to do something big or change the direction you are headed.

Thank you for reminding a fat 40 year old of something he should remember more often.

insomniasexx  ·  3409 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Live it up, Steve. Learn to solder or something. LOL!

The cool thing about kids is you now have an excuse to do semi-ridiculous things and say it is "for them." I remember when I was 6, "Santa" got us these little toy robot things. They were basically pick and place machines with a joystick and made of plastic with fun colors. They gave you some blocks and a ball and stuff to "build"

Two days later my father had two more of the robot things sitting on his workbench. My brother and I were confused (how did Santa get my Dad the toy?!) but it wore off when we got to take the actual toy apart (without breaking it!) to see how it works. This was all for "our benefit" of course. My dad didn't merely want to take some kids toy apart for fun and out of curiousity. I'm sure my mother saw right through that excuse.

Oh man. I found the toy. I think ours was the 90s version of this. It's nearly identical but the colors and graphics were just slightly different, in my memory.

I remember the first thing you had to do was put the stickers on! It was terrible. Stickers suck and you can never get them on perfectly straight, or without bubble, especially when there is a fat joystick in the middle!

My other absolute favorite toy as a kid (which I still have) was this wooden marble maze. My brother played with this beast for days and days on end. Probably from the time we were 3 or 4 all the way through 9 or 10 year old. We would put out hotwheels set through the middle of it. When people wonder why I'm all engineer-y even though I'm naturally creative, this is why.

Sorry. I got off track. Learn to solder or something Steve!